I’m just going to say it: sometimes liking fashion – and particularly blogging about fashion – makes some people assume you’re stupid.

I’ve known this for a while now, but it was really brought home to me a few weeks ago, when I posted a running-related photo on Instagram, and got a handful of comments which, while obviously well-meant, and intended as jokes, were nevertheless just a little bit condescending. It was obvious from the responses that some of my followers found the idea of me running absolutely hilarious: they imagined I would only do it if it allowed me to wear something pink and sparkly, and probably with a full face of makeup, and perfectly coiffed hair, into the bargain.

As it happens, I’ve been running for years now: I don’t wear make-up, I buy my shoes for the fit and comfort rather than for the style, and wear my hair scraped back in a sweaty ponytail. You wouldn’t know that, though, because I don’t show you it: why would I? No one needs to see my tomato-red, post-workout face, my worn-out running clothes, or my ratty hair, just like they don’t need to see the pile of laundry waiting to be folded in the kitchen, or the dirty paw-prints on my living room floor. They’re real, and they’re honest, but they’re not exactly Instagrammable, so I don’t bother to document those moments. Instead, I post another photo of a red lipstick or a pair of sparkly shoes… then I wonder why people talk down to me sometimes, or assume I’m shallow.

Don't assume I'm stupid just because I like shoes and fashion

But then  again, why should people talk down to me just because I’m partial to red lipstick, and have never met a big skirt I didn’t like? What is it about fashion and beauty (and blogging about fashion and beauty) that makes people assume that anyone who’s interested in those things cannot possibly be interested in anything else? Blogging is my job: it’s not who I am, and the things I choose to blog about aren’t the only things I ever think about. If I met an accountant, say, I wouldn’t assume that she’d only want to talk about numbers all night, or that I’d have to get out a calculator to keep her entertained. I have certain acquaintances, however, who feel they must mention shoes in every single conversation they have with me, because my blogs have convinced them that shoes are the only thing I ever think about. In a way, it’s hard to fault them for that, because when you only show one side of yourself on your blog (or on Instagram, or whatever), people will assume that one side is all there is.

I could argue for days about whether or not that’s a reasonable assumption, but the fact is that it happens, and people make assumptions based on whatever information you provide them. I don’t blame people for looking at multiple photos of me twirling round in a pretty dress, and thinking I’m a little bit shallow, but I do wonder what I can do to challenge those assumptions, and make it clearer that my love of fashion is just one aspect of my personality – it’s not ALL of it. That it’s possible to like fashion, but to also like other things – and to be capable of holding down a conversation without any mention of shoes.

why liking fashion doesn't mean you're stupid

(It’s not possible to write a blog post without including photos of shoes, though. Oh, the irony!)

 The problem is that I don’t really want to change the way I blog, or the way I run my social media. I’m not about to start airing my dirty laundry on Instagram, just to prove that I have it, and I’m also not about to pretend that I don’t enjoy fashion, and all of the other frivolous things I write about here, and at my other sites. I do love fashion. I do like makeup. I did buy some new workout clothes to try and motivate myself to get back onto the treadmill – they’re not pink, but they are mint green, which is almost as bad, right?

But I also like other things in life. I don’t choose to write about those things here – or not often, anyway – because that’s not what this site is about, and because I wouldn’t really enjoy it. I also choose to avoid topics like politics, for instance (even although I enjoy a good political conversation as much as the next person), because I know posts about politics tend to turn into arguments, and I don’t come here to argue, or even to debate. This is a place where I focus mostly on the frivolous: it’s a place where I can indulge my love of 50s dresses and red lipstick, and connect with other people who share those interests.

Lately, though, I’ve noticed that I spend a lot of time in “real life” trying to defend the fact that I have an entire room full of clothes and shoes (“It’s because of my job!” I tell everyone who sees it. “I get sent stuff by brands all the time! I didn’t actually go out and buy them all!”), and I actively dress down for some things, because I don’t want to be seen as empty-headed because I’m wearing a pair of high heels, or a dress. (The annoying thing about this is that no one I know in “real life” has ever said anything remotely negative to me about my love of fashion: or not people who know me well, anyway. So my feelings of defensiveness come purely from myself – or from reactions I get online, or from casual acquaintances.) I don’t know many people in real life who’re particularly into fashion, which is one of the reasons I started writing about it in the first place: blogging gave me access to a community of like-minded people, but it also changed some people’s perceptions of me, and made them assume there’s nothing more to me than what I wore today, and which lipstick I’ll choose tomorrow.

But there is. And hopefully one day I’ll find a way to put that across, and to make it more obvious that although I may choose to illustrate my posts with pictures of my shoes, there’s a whole lot more going on behind the camera.

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  1. It’s actually one of the main peeves I have with Hollywood and TV shows–the assumption that girls can be either into fashion OR clever and geeky, but certainly not both. *sigh*

    It’s tirering and I do know some smart, educated women who pride themselves in not being interested in fashion because they don’t want to be perceived as shallow. It’s sad, really.

    1. Same here: I know quite a lot of people who do this self-righteous, “Oh, I’d NEVER wear makeup/ buy lots of shoes / wear a dress” thing, as if they think it makes them a better person than me or something. It’s so embarrassing when someone’s smugly talking about how they have “better things to spend their money on than shoes”, when they know perfectly well that I have shelves full of the things! The strange thing is, the people who do this invariably have what I’d consider to be “expensive” or “frivolous” hobbies of their own – I’d never try to make them feel stupid for whatever they’re into, but if you like nice clothes, you’re basically fair game!

      1. Yes, exactly!

        I have friends who spend ridiculous amounts on season passes to football (European football) games. So what? I If it makes them happy, who am I to judge?

        I recently started investing in high-end make-up, because I have problematic skin and also I’ll admit that it makes me happy to own a blush that says “Chanel”. And instantly I got the “Oh well, seems like you have too much money on your hands”-kind of remark. *shakes head*

        1. Great post Amber, am so with you on this one. I’m grateful for women out there like Marissa Meyer who prove you can love a good frock and be an utterly brilliant boss woman.

  2. Blogging is a funny old thing. People think they know you, when all they really know is one aspect of you see through a tiny window.

    P.S Where did you get mint green running kit? I think that is the vitally important question 😉

    1. Gah, I totally meant to link to your post from last week, and forgot – I’ve added it now: thanks for giving me the push I needed to hit publish!

      Mint running gear is from H&M – I swear by them because it’s cheap enough that I don’t mind it getting covered in mud or being constantly in the wash!

  3. I completely feel you in this. I’ve been seriously slacking on my blog, because I’m tired of people thinking all there is to me is fashion and makeup. I just needed a break from it. Especially since I’m not even that fashionable. However knowing I’m not the only one feeling this way lately makes me feel so much better.

    Mana
    Fashion and Happy Things

  4. Thank you for the post lovely, we need to remember we are all multi faceted. I mentioned to a friend I would like to start a YouTube channel and study to become a Makeup Artist, their reply, “but you’re smart?”.
    *facepalm

    1. Oh wow, that’s so rude! I’m constantly in awe of makeup artists – it must take so much creativity to be really good at it, and a lot of hard work!

  5. I’ve just had a similar discussion about hairdressing. People think hairdressers must be stupid without realising what is entailed, and that their work is one aspect of them 🙂

    1. I think it’s probably common in a lot of creative fields, but particularly anything that involves appearance: there’s this idea that if you care about your appearance AT ALL, you’re automatically shallow, which is pretty unfair!

    2. I think the one condescending to the person who has a sharp object by their head is the dim one there.

      There’s a pun about hairdressers and being sharp in there somewhere, but I can’t quite make it gel.

  6. For what it’s worth: I work in academia so I am surrounded by ‘serious’ conversation all day long, so I’d like to think I have developed some skills in telling empty air from a good brain. And I have never thought that anybody who could write as wittily, brilliantly and fluently as you could ever be empty-headed. Ever.

    It’s a very sexist assumption the world makes that ‘women’s pursuits’ such as fashion, or light writing, are stupid, worthless, or without skill. Never mind that fashion is a huge chunk of the economy, and that good writing of any kind is a honed ability.

    I think anybody who has an ounce of intellectual humbleness would do well to get off their high horse and appreciate that the labour of others, whatever its topic, is never worthless, or entirely who they are.

    To me you come across as a well-read person with opinions who chose one particular topic to write about. You don’t owe anyone to give us a lecture on Greece’s latest election to ‘prove’ that you can talk about other stuff too.

    1. Thanks – I always hope that people who actually *read* my blog will realise there’s a bit more to me than the dresses and heels, etc (People who know me well in real life obviously know that, and know they can talk to me about something other than shoes!), but I think a lot of people just look at the photos, so I guess it’s easy for them to get a more one-sided view: even more so on sites like Instagram, where it’s JUST photos, so there’s not much else for them to go on!

  7. Soooo relate to this! I took part in a charity football match for work in the summer, and after the 5th “do you even own trainers??” comment the joke started wearing very thin. I also overheard a guy tell his mate in the pub on Sat that I was clearly ‘up myself’, because I was wearing a hat! Totally understand why you would steer clear of ‘serious issues’ too – I hate when social media becomes a stage for political debate (or, let’s face it, a cringeworthy slanging match!) To be fair I think the ability to stay neutral is a quality widely misjudged in our society – ‘sitting on the fence’ as this years CBB contestants love to call it, doesn’t mean you don’t have opinions it just means you are confident enough in your beliefs to not need to seek justification for them and have the emotional intelligence to know that they don’t always need to be vocalised. Sometimes people use ‘I’m just honest’ or ‘that’s just my opinion’ as a cover for basically being a b****!

    1. Ha! One of the comments on my Instagram photo was someone saying they were “surprised” to know I wear sneakers” – I thought, “What, even for running?!” I know they’re mostly joking, but I think some people see me as some kind of Elle Woods character, jogging along in heels or something!

      I totally agree about the “Just being honest” thing, too – I HATE that, and people definitely just use it as an excuse for rudeness. When I was a bit younger, I’d have happily debated issues with people, but these days, like you say, I just don’t really feel the need… I know what I think about things, and I’m not really interested in fighting my corner or trying to change anyone’s mind, so I’d rather just stick to fairly non-controversial topics!

  8. If it makes you feel any better, your writing style and witty comments show obvious intelligence, regardless of what you are writing about. Although to be honest, I think it’s unfair to assume liking fashion means you are shallow. I think good style usually has a lot of expression and intention behind it, which requires the use of a brain 🙂

    1. Thank you! I think it’s unfair, too – I really struggle to understand why some people assume that an interest in style must mean the person has no interest in anything else: people are rarely that one-dimensional, whatever their hobbies are!

  9. Following on from Fran who works in academia I’d like to endorse her comments. I’m a lawyer and I love this blog.It is intelligent, well written and it has revolutionised my office wear. I bought the Audrey dress and was hooked and I’m wearing the teal wiggle dress as I write.I also listen to radio four for political debate and have a string of letters after my name. Why can’t we have it all ? It’s working for Amal Clooney. keep up the good work !

  10. I get this same vibe all the time from some people. I can’t be that smart because I blog about fashion and beauty? It is annoying but I don’t let it get to me too much. I just see it as them being jealous because they don’t have my life. I am an Accountant and a Fashion Blogger so I get the best of both worlds. I can talk figures and fashion the same way.

    http://fashionandstylepolice.com/

  11. I think, Amber, you are surrounded by a great amount of readers who, like you, are witty, well intentionned, educated, and fashion lovers. Most of us have come accross what you write about in this post from narrow minded people who need to put others in exclusive boxes.
    You give us light but never shallow chronicles about fashion, beauty, nice tips and random acts of stupidity like we also do in our lives and your stories enlighten our days. Thank you for sharing! It’s so funny. In fact most of your writing shows your sensitivity, your good taste (not only in fashion) and your humour.
    Also, the comments we can read are usually very nice and that’s what you arouse in sensible and friendly readers: gentle feelings.
    Sorry if my english is a bit awkward… I’m a french…french litterature teacher… And I love shoes and fashion. You can add I’m blond and imagine what suppositions I get sometimes.
    Let’s still shine!!!

  12. Oh man. I’ve gotten comments like that before for just liking pink, even if what I’m wearing is not particularly fashionable or fussy. There is definitely a huge element of sexism tied to it. Oddly enough, before the 1800s or so, fashion was considered a worthy pursuit that all sophisticated gentlemen would care something about. If I recall correctly it was largely the dandies who changed that — even though they seem very fashion concious from our perception, there was an element of “lace and ribbons and fussy little details are for ladies” and suddenly fashion is the domain of the female, and we all know women are frivolous barely-literate morons, right?

    Which is sort of exacerbated by the fact that, when presented with a culture which says you can either like fashion or , intelligent little girls naturally lean towards the latter. And then are rewarded for looking down on the people who think that probably the choice is nonsense in the first place.

    Huge pet peeve of mine, in other words. It should be patently obvious to anyone that someone who writes as well as you do *and* who runs a business doing so is no dummy. (Or that the person buying the neuroscience textbook probably doesn’t need to be talked down to because of her pink purse, which is the actual reason someone once gave for speaking to me like a five year old. You know, if you’re judging my intelligence based on a colour I’m accessorizing with, you’re probably the shallow one…)

    1. Er, I must have deleted part of one of my sentences. “Which is sort of exacerbated by the fact that, when presented with a culture which says you can either like fashion or , intelligent little girls naturally lean towards the latter” should be “you can either like fashion or literally anything even remotely academic.” Whoops!

    2. I get the “pink” comments too, which is so strange to me because I’ve actually never been particularly into pink things – I mean, I have a few things that are pink, but even as little girl, I was never a big fan: definitely not one of those women who have pink *everything*, but people seem to think I’m obsessed with it!

      One of the things that interests me about it all is that we have a society that is actually fairly obsessed with appearance, so women are simultaneously taught that we must always look immaculate (never age, have no body hair, etc etc), but then puts us down for showing any kind of interest in our appearance: we can’t win!

  13. Absolutely agreed with Fran. These types of comments reflect just how deeply sexism and homophobia are ingrained in our society. Fashion, which has historically been the area associated with women and queer men, is treated as a joke, because those silly folk – the non-male, the non-heteronormative – cannot be thought of being as capable and intelligent as the ‘regular’ people (cisgender, heterosexual, white etc. etc. men). I too work in academia, and this kind of attitude is everywhere. For example, I did my PhD on lyrics, and you won’t believe the ideas expressed in the majority of books on the subject – sexism is so insidiously there that the music which can be coded as feminine is considered inferior, so much so that the gendered adjectives describing music can be used for dismissal (‘sentimental’, ‘soft’) or praise (‘hard’, ‘muscular’). And don’t even get me started on how female artists that are usually praised are those that are either masculine in appearance (like Patti Smith) or completely indifferent towards traditional notions of beauty (like Janis Joplin). It’s infuriating.

  14. Brilliant post Amber, though I haven’t experienced it as much as you have people do assume that you’re dense or ditzy because you blog or like makeup. A love of make-up, fashion, pink, or anything that’s considered feminine does not mean you automatically don’t like going to the gym, or you’re stupid and self-obsessed or any of the other stereotypes.

    I really liked Steffi’s comment about Hollywood playing up to these stereotypes; you can either be pretty or smart but definitely not both. It baffles me that in 2015 this is still a problem.

  15. I think you’ve tapped into something real here, and I think a lot of it has to do with how traditionally feminine things are viewed in society. Fashion has a lot in common with art – line, color, social subtext, construction and deconstruction of gender norms – but it gets very little of the associated intellectual cachet. Add your said, people tend to think of it a frivolous, and believe that only vapid people are really into fashion. It’s annoying as hell to me, at least in part because the things that men (at least stereotypically speaking) get excited about, like sports, aren’t viewed the same way. A man can walk into a business meeting and make small talk about the big game before getting down to business, and no one thinks anything of it. If a woman did the same thing and brought to the couture shows in Paris, the response would almost universally be, “who is this airhead?”

    1. Very true – I know quite few men who are truly obsessive about football (far more than I am with fashion), or other hobbies, but people don’t treat them like Neanderthals because of it, or assume that they have no other interests in life!

  16. Only one friend actually knows I have a blog – yet I’ve been doing it 2.5 years! I think i just assumed people would wonder why anyone would care what I wear / do / run, that I’m big-headed or as you say, shallow. I just like connecting with other likeminded women & drawing inspiration from blogs as I’ve worked in an all-male company the last 8 years so I don’t get that kind of interaction on a day-to-day basis.

  17. I totally agree on this. Even if the only thing you ever showed were shoes, that doesn’t give us the right to judge you. You can’t box people in a strict category. I’m very responsible which makes people think I’m vey serious and mature, when I’m actually very childish. I love reading and watching netflix, which makes people think I hate going outdoors when in reality I love it. Everyone has more than one layer to them, no one is only “girly” or “geek” or “sporty”. We don’t belong in a single box- we don’t belong to any

    1. Totally! In my case, it doesn’t help that I have quite a self-deprecating writing style, which makes people see me as very ditzy, but in real life I can actually be quite serious. Then again, I can also be quite loud if I’m in the mood – no one is the same all the time!

  18. You continue doing your thing! You’re SO great at it, those negative comments really come from petty AND jealous people. It takes a lot of creativity and thinking to actually develop a sustainable sense of style like you. You’re actually one of my inspirations, when I come to your blog is for motivation. I love your retro vintage look and the fact that you’re always wearing bright lipsticks. It’s so much like my style, or at least the one I want to develop. You’re a smart, confident, stylish woman, for sure there will be people trying to bring you down, but for those people? You just keep showing them how fabulous, real and ambitious you really are 😉

    1. I don’t think people are jealous, or that they dislike me or anything – I think they’re just reacting to the information I put out there, and not really stopping to consider that they’re only seeing a tiny part of my life, not all of it!

  19. @amber your blog is awesome and i really appreciate for your handwork you did on it. In my opinion Blogging is not mean to make $$$ and all that. I recently started my personal blog on fashion to provide more solution and fashion stuff around the world. Even i got some ideas to get Start up to become uk top fashion bloggers. Your blog also gave me inspiration.

    Thanks you @amber for sharing with us and inspiring the bloggers

    1. I think we’ll just have to disagree that blogging isn’t “meant” to make money – I think people should feel free to do whatever they like with their blogs: one of the great things about blogging is that there are no “rules”. I put hours and hours of work into my blogs every week – much more than I did in traditional employment – and I just couldn’t afford to do that if I didn’t make some money from it!

  20. I appreciate you and your blog as well, I agree with your statement. Same reason i had to work freely there no rules for you what you want to say or write. blogging is all about the informational. As trend is increase in online marketing “Blogging” become a business. As i m newbie into this i researched well on it . I listed down my favorite fashion bloggers who inspired me to write. In that list your blog is mention 🙂
    Love to read your blog daily 🙂 Keep sharing with us

    Regards
    Caroline

  21. How right you are Amber – I “shop” for a living as personal shopper and stylist people always say how great my job is and how lucky I am but it is work – and a lot of time is spent researching and sourcing!! Yes it is fun and I love it but there is more to me too but just because you work “in fashion” and choose to write about it you can’t have a brain too.

    1. Personal shopper? As in the game? I didn’t know that was a real job. But people actually think you’re plain or stupid just because that’s your job? I doubt they think the same of a man who works in the sports industry. It seem if you’re somehow into fashion, you’ll always get the short end of the stick. Such a primitive way of thinking

  22. I don’t comment often, but I had to respond to this post. I’m working on a PhD in sciences, a rather math-heavy science at that, and I love fashion. My colleagues and I spend a lot of time talking about shoes, lipstick, skin care, hair styles, etc. Just last week I was at a conference and a group of women struck up a conversation with me about my shoes (black pointy toed snake skin stilettos) and then segued into what turned out to be a mutual interest and are starting a joint project together. The women I know in the sciences are passionate about our work, but we also want to look our best and try to figure out how to look stylish while adhering to safety rules, or ways to add some fun to a presentation or interview outfit. I’d say the frumpy nerd is the exception, not the rule, but it feels like most of the world assumes pretty=stupid and smart=unattractive. I get so angry at people who are surprised that I’m a scientist, or that I enjoy hiking and camping, or that I can fix machinery and rebuild walls, simply because I wear red lipstick and heels.

  23. I found myself in a reversal of this situation yesterday when I went to see a neurologist. I wanted to tell her I liked her shoes but thought, “No, shut up! She’s a neurologist! She’s not interested in shoe talk!”

    She might be, but there’s a time and place.

  24. I think that it’s so obvious from your writing style that there is so much more to your personality than just shoes and dresses, that only an envious/shallow/narrow-minded/all of the above person can jump to such a conclusion… We others indulge in your love of fashion with you!

  25. I think it’s reasonable to say that this stereotype is put across to us on a daily basis from TV. It’s normally the popular girls who like clothes and make up but don’t tend to be able to understand much else about the world, much like the guys who are seen as the “jocks”. Whereas the ones who get on with life and can have reasoned discussions on politics or even talking about a book don’t focus on fashion or beauty -.- It is really annoying and I’m glad that you have spoken out about this 🙂 I may not enjoy fashion like some people but every now and again I love to immerse myself in it!

    Lauren 🙂 x

  26. I have many feelings on this subject, born of having a group of friends who are exactly the people you are writing this entry about. That group is comprised of both men who belittle all things feminine and women who eschew traditional ‘feminine’ pursuits/interests to fit in to the various professional worlds they inhabit.

    In short though, you were one of the first fashion bloggers I read that made me feel *it was okay* for me to love fashion and dresses and girly things in general. I had been scanning the internet, on the verge of admitting this to myself when I found your blog. Your writing is witty and erudite and regularly brightens my day. It blew my ingrained fashion = airheadedness assumptions straight out of the water. And suddenly I had a whole world open up to me, one that gives me joy and pleasure and only adds to my life. 🙂

  27. Thank you for this post. It’s helped me put my finger on something I’ve been starting to feel for a while now. At work I’m known as “the one with the dresses”. I like pretty dresses, I have a nice collection of them. I’m quick to complement awesome outfits on others, because a compliment will lift my day so why wouldn’t I share that feeling around? But recently I’ve started to realise that while people are happy to chat to me in the kitchen, they rarely come to me with work questions or think to include me in discussions I should be a part of. I had assumed that I was building a network, but I’m starting to worry I might have developed a reputation for being shallow. Luckily the people who actually see my work everyday don’t act this way, but its still a concern. Thanks for putting my frustration into words

  28. This is very true! I feel like I can’t tell people that I have a blog, because they’ll think less of me or something like that. Why can’t I be superficial on my blog and leave out the bad parts of life? I’m not doing it to seem perfect, I’m doing it because it’s fun! Thank you for writing this post 🙂

  29. I love how honest this post is! It is all about perception! Judging from my instagram, I go out for coffee daily, spend hours on my makeup and am always doing something new and interesting. However, in real life I am not nearly as interesting!

    Fashion is a hobbie and we can all have as many hobbies as we wish! Just because you like high heels doesnt mean that you never wear flats 🙂 xx

    Great blog post and amazing blog!

    Lauren | shynature.blogspot.co.uk

  30. Thanks for this post! I think a lot of the reason I don’t flaunt my blog to people I know in real life is because of this stereotype that liking fashion and makeup means I’m dumb. I have a master’s degree but I love fun outfits and makeup! I don’t understand why some people have the impression that they’re mutually exclusive qualities. I know so many intelligent women with a wonderful eye for fashion!

    You write like an educated person and I think the other aspects of your personality show through here. I hope sharing a bit of our other interests along with the pretty outfit pictures can help slowly chip away this stereotype. I wish most people could understand that a blog has a target audience and topic though. Most bloggers don’t share everything they think about or do, nor should that be expected in order to be seen as a real person with a brain.

    1. “I wish most people could understand that a blog has a target audience and topic though.”

      So agree with this! I also don’t like talking about my blog to people I know in real life, mostly because so many people seem to have a hard time understanding what a blog is, and that most of them have a target audience they’re writing for. It’s interesting, because I know that if I launched a print magazine writing about fashion and beauty, most people would think it was a really cool thing to do, but somehow when it’s “just” a blog, it can only ever been seen as a frivolous, empty-headed hobby!

  31. Great post, Amber! It’s clear that a lot of people can relate to this with myself included! Personally I feel sorry for the people who can only see something from one perspective as life is all about intertwining connections, with critical analysis being key. I think people only need to read your post regarding why you first became a fashion blogger to realise just how much more there is to your life. The others are right, you can tell from your writing style that you are intelligent and not shallow! Keep up the good work 🙂

    1. Yeah, I’ve always found it quite strange that some people are so ready to assume that other people are totally one-dimensional – if I know someone’s interested in a particular thing, I’d never assume that was the ONLY thing they were into, but if you like fashion, a lot of people take it as read that your entire life must revolve around it!

  32. A lot of things I thought while reading this text are already mentioned in the comments above. By the way I love all these supportive and nice messages, it is so uplifting.

    I just wanted to add: even if you where an empty-headed bubblehead only interested in fashion, nobody has a right to turn you down for that. You don’t need to be intelligent and well educated to be respected. And society sucks, not only for tearing women down, but also for obliging them to constantly prove their worth.
    It’s also infuriating that women are told to like fashion and make up, only to punish them when they do like it (and dare make a living out of it).

    On a side note: Elle Woods got into Harvard on her own to show her ex that she is more than hair, beauty and shoes, so she totally proves your point.

    I love your blog, and this post, and the comments. Thank you!

  33. We all need a break from the negativity in the world. Shoes and Red Lipstick make me smile. In fact I just recently finally got an Instagram account. I only follow happy things which now includes you.

  34. I totally understand this! I absolutely love, love, love fashion. For me it is another (most fabulous) art medium. However, because I love fashion, so many people assume that I am empty-headed and shallow. I’m a straight-A student at UC Berkeley, but because I don’t wear the “uniform” or yoga pants and a hoodie, people assume things about me or make condescending comments about how I “try too hard” or how they don’t have time to dress up because they *actually* study. I’m glad you are starting this conversation because it really is soooo frustrating to be an intelligent young woman who is assumed to be dumb just becaus I like fashion and spend more than 3 minutes getting ready in the morning.

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